After a breakup, some things will change. It's normal.
Your plans of moving in and building a life together fell apart. Now all you want is for the next chapter in your story to go as smoothly as possible and for things to get better. And they should. The thing is, it could mean having to move elsewhere, finding a new place to stay, relocate to a new neighborhood or city.
Even with signs of distress in a relationship, showing up ahead of time, a breakup is very upsetting. There's no way around it. You know this will require some adjusting. You wish you could avoid it, but you kind of have to go along with it.
The best love coaches will suggest you stay connected. This means hanging out with friends and family. Taking time to heal and focus on the life that's ahead of you. Easier said than done you may say ? There's no 12 step program out there that can teach you how to breakup. You could Haggen Dazs your way out of it. But you'll have to cross the bridge to meet whoever's on the other side.
New house rules
Home decor is a part of the recovery process. The place where you live affects your mood, overall health and happiness. It's your home, where you spent alot of time together. It's not necessary for every moment to remind you of your ex.
Do change the locks on your door, make a pile of toss and keep, do not dispose of your ex's personal belongings, rather set a date for pick-up, create an atmosphere of peace and good energy in your home, get more pillows for your bedroom because having two pillows is not enough, try putting on music or having people over to fill any void left by the person's absence, make time for self-care, renew your appreciation for the space you live in and splurge on trendy decor objects.
Are you living in a condo, a house or apartment ? Here are decor suggestions. See which ones you can apply :
Building an accent wall
Changing your lighting fixtures
Adding artwork
Wallpaper or painting
Accessories : dinnerware set, towel set, carpet, linen and plants.
Make some room for the new season in your life.
Me time
The worse part is staying in an unhappy relationship for reasons like rent, afraid to end up alone, financial security, oppressive cultural traditions, customs or religion. Now's a good time to explore and see what's out there. What the world has to offer, meet new people, spend time traveling, play team sports or plan your next move.
But it's not a time for radical changes with big decision-making. It's working with the elements in your home to facilitate a time of transition.
At home you can setup a new seating arrangement with what you already have, practice luminotherapy to get the most out of natural lighting and get items that make your life-at-home easier.
Change the decor according to what's trending at the moment or to match your current mood.
The psychology of color
Colors can affect the mood in your home. Find the ones that work for you. Green is beneficial for promoting healthy living, organic and natural products, environmental safety, wholeness and healing. Dark green is for anything that has to do with money and finances. Red is vibrant, powerful, motivating and exciting. Neutral tones like white, black, grey and beige are known to create a sense of trust, security and honesty.
Once upon a time in the garden of Eden, God created Adam and Eve. So the story goes, there was a forbidden tree in the middle of it. Then something happened, not too sure what it is, between her and Adam. But that day she broke the rule and chose to eat from the tree !
Adam eventually followed her and they lived happily ever after.
THE END
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